My mantra for this week is that “You have to lose control to gain it…”
So my 10-day silent meditation ended up lasting for 6 days. I was happy to shorten it though because I found that 6 days was a better length of time for me. I even plan to make it something that I do quarterly, but as a 3-day silent meditation just because it’s easier given my necessary business interactions.
Now during this process, one area that required the most out of me was not being affected by others around me. In the midst of the pandemic I didn’t have the luxury of going away on a silent meditation retreat, absent house-sharing family members, allowing me the ease of isolation. Instead, I chose to tackle it right in the thick of things.
Though I don’t necessarily recommend this as doing silent meditation in the thick of it is very challenging. Interactions pose challenges that isolation does not. While both scenarios offer a plethora of insight and personal growth, they each do so via different paths.
Nonetheless, I find that doing the silent meditation in the thick of it is a powerful way to achieve your personal growth goals on the fast track. I say this because it requires an extremely strong will to maintain and stay on track when there are those around you who simply do not have an appreciation or respect for what you are doing.
Silent meditation isn’t something that the average person understands. Therefore, we know what happens when people encounter something that they don’t understand. Lack of understanding often leads to insecurities which is typically acted out aggressively. In other words, people may perceive what you are doing as offensive and act accordingly.
Thus, the only way to deal with those personalities is to silence them. Remember that they are energy that you have drawn unto yourself. They represent the projection of your need to control their response to you. So in order to maintain control over you and the situation you have to silence your focus on them. This in turn, releases your need to control their response to you. The last thing that you want to do is the very same thing that you are accusing them of.
Ultimately, it all goes back to knowing that everyone around you is a projection of some aspect of you. So to overcome negative connotations of that projection requires that you silence them. Send them into the darkness until they become the nothingness. Then transform that into something that better serves you, which is in this instance, control over you.
By letting go of the need to control others, you in turn empower yourself in ways unimaginable. You gain total control over every aspect of your life and you’ll be all the better for it. So without hesitation, lose control in order to gain it and infinite opportunities for expansion will manifest. Life may be a game, but you are the controller.
