Aloha (hello in Hawaiian)!!! so i was pondering the illusion of trying. i know that at some point in our lives we’ve all heard the saying, “never give up, keep trying.” however, what does that really say to us and how do we really process that phrase? let’s see…. one definition of “trying” is… straining one’s patience and goodwill to the limit. now i don’t know about you, but to me that doesn’t sound like anything that i want to do, especially to the end of actually achieving something. so why are we always trying rather than doing?
we try and make relationships work, we try our best, we try out for cheerleading and football teams, we try on clothes. the thing is, the more we try the less we do. so at what point do we start doing the things that we want to do? when do we free ourselves of the illusion of trying?
at whatever stage in life that we choose to do what we want we begin to actually live rather than trying to live. this thing of trying keeps us mentally and spiritually in a space of lacking fulfillment and the unobtainable. it keeps us reaching rather than grasping. so when we’re ready, we have to do.
like i wanted to be a yoga instructor and for a long time i did all this research on the career trying to see if it would be a good fit. but then i got to a point of dissatisfaction with looking into it and needed to actually experience doing it. so i enrolled in an instructor certification course and the experience of doing was so gratifying. so much so that i vowed to, from that day forward, do all of the things that i wanted to do. and it could be as out-of-the-box as i wanted it to be. it didn’t have to be dependent on the approval of others. it didn’t have to be for the purpose of gaining mainstream credentials nor to receive recognition or accolades. it was just because it was what i wanted to do.
like i wanted to be a writer so i started a blog. i wanted to see the light in others illuminate so i started being a life coach. i wanted to see if i could survive grad school so i enrolled. throughout my life i’ve just done it. i’ve just lived rather than sitting on the sidelines trying and dreaming about it. i’ve just enjoyed the freedom of exploring the unknown…. hmmmm the unknown…. as i type this post i actually see that the fear of the unknown is actually the driving force behind the desire to try versus do.
we try when there is uncertainty and do what we are certain of. however, life is too beautiful to live in fear of the unknown. revealing the unknown broadens our knowledge base of what is and enables us to grow and ascend into our True Self. so let’s skip tryouts and go ahead and start our own team!!! let’s be like nike and just do it!!!
what about you? have you gotten caught up in the illusion of trying? how did you shake the spell and finally start doing? have you yet begun to actually live? are you wearing the outfit that you want to wear or are you still in the dressing room trying on outfits?
Sunflower Smooches!!!