Shabe Yabebabe Yeshe (hello in Chubby) Lovies!!! as a mother i find that even outside of my children i am often playing a mother role. specifically in relationships. why??? because relationships are child-like entities that we co-create with our partners.
remember that everything is energy. thus, when 2 energy beings come together they co-create another energy being and that energy being becomes their child. so together we have to actively co-parent and nurture that child. day-to-day we have to provide it with a warm, loving, safe, nurturing environment where it can thrive. when the child is whiny or crying we have to check to see what’s wrong.
is it hungry? is it wet? has it become full of sh*! and now need a diaper change? or does it just need to be held? when it’s sick we have to nurse it back to good health. we also have to allow it to grow into the being that it is meant to be.
then, as it grows and character traits start to be more apparent we start to see it reflect some of the things that are in us. some we like… and some, not so much. yet, as for the latter we have to ask ourselves what we intend to do about it?
as parents when we see our children headed down a less than desirable path that we once ventured we want to intervene and share our knowledge about the situation to prevent them from ‘making the same mistake.’
but do we handle things the same way with our relationship child? or do we stay stuck on repeat going down the same undesirable path relationship in and relationship out?
essentially, our relationship children symbolize a great opportunity for growth as they are a direct reflection of us. we get to see what things about ourselves need to be nurtured and what needs to be released. moreover, we get the wonderful experience of co-parenting this child with our partner who comes from an entirely different path with an entirely different set of experiences and outlook on child-rearing.
so based on their experiences, their way of raising this child may not always match yours and understanding that will be a major part of raising the child together. in some instances this will mean that as our relationship kid grows older we have to let them go on their way and live their own lives in the knowledge that, despite how things have turned out, we have done all that we can.
yet, in other instances the family will stay in tact and we reap the benefit of seeing our relationship children all the way through to their adult years, even as grandparents. this is when we get to take pride in the product of all of our hard work. it is also what makes all those midnight crying sessions and feedings all worth it!! 
do you see relationships as our children? what have you learned from your relationship child about you? how have you and your partner grown as a result?
Sunflower Smooches!!!
